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Life Doesn’t Have to be Hard

This morning I was talking with a client who has significantly changed the way she lives her life in the past few months.

Yes, she’s working out more and eating better all the time, but this isn’t what I’m really talking about.

She’s completely changed the way she looks at life and interacts with her family and friends. She’s optimistic, less judgmental, and really seeking to improve the overall quality of her emotional life.

Nothing significant has changed in this woman’s life, except for her attitude about it. She’s letting her life be easy!

Sometimes there are hard things we have to go through in life and that’s just a reality.

Other times, we make life hard because of the way we perceive it.

We may complain or create problems when there really aren’t any or might stress about other people’s problems even though we have no control over them.

For most of us, the ease or difficulty of our lives is directly impacted by the way we think about the events that happen every minute of every day.

It definitely takes effort to accept the events (or people) that challenge or frustrate us. It’s easy to complain and blame, but it almost never makes us feel better.

Taking responsibility for our lives means that we give up all complaining and blaming. As hard as this is for many of us, it actually makes our lives way easier.

If we’re not complaining or blaming, we are accepting whatever comes up in each day and taking steps to change it if we are dissatisfied with it.

This actually makes our lives much easier because we’re actively working to improve the quality of our lives, which always improves the quality of lives we touch as well.

Every day we have choices. We can make life easier or harder. We can be happier or unhappier.

What are you willing to do to make your life easier?

Action Steps:

  1. Notice how often you complain about something that displeases you or want to blame someone when things don’t go the way you want them to.

  2. Don’t judge yourself when you notice the complaining or blaming. Just pay attention to how you feel when you’re doing it.

  3. Experiment with letting your life be easier by letting go of the complaining and blaming when you’re able to and notice how that feels.